Tuesday 5 February 2013

Love is love, right?



Same sex marriage. Whats your view?

Im devoting this blog post to my views on the issue. On speaking to my mum earlier, she just told me "I dont have an opinion", so whether if you are sympathetic to my mother dearest or you oppose it extremely, I hope this post will enlighten you slightly on why I support it! (Disclaimer: I am honestly not trying to tell you that your opinion is wrong, however I simply want to express my opinion as this is an issue that is a part of the Human of being) Im an equalitist! 

In my personal opinion, love is love at the end of the day. I am straight, however I can understand that not all people are! If a man loves another man, then he should be granted the right to marry that man, and if a woman has found her soulmate in another woman, she should be able to marry that woman and live a happy life, 2 husbands or 2 wives - Whats wrong with that? Just because it doesn't fit the bill of tradition doesn't mean that it is wrong, does it?

We have people in uproar daily at the fact that the homosexual minority in society are bullied, however in not allowing equal marriage, we are alienating this minority in society further.About 30% of suicides have been related to sexual identity crisis, and the fact that people cant accept this, as it isnt the "norm"... what is normal anyways?! If we want to tackle the problem of homophobia, we need to give rights to the men who want to marry men and the women who want to marry a woman. What is difficult about this - its equality at the end of the day. 

One of the many reasons that people who are opposing the same sex marriage bill argue that It Always Denies a Child Either a Father or a Mother and that it ignores a child's best interests. In the Girlguiding UK Girl's Attitude survey, only 32% of girls surveyed agreed with the statement "Married couples make better parents than unmarried ones" - at this point, unmarried couples would have been single parent families or same sex couples who were deinied the right to be married. However opposition will tell you that it ignores the child's needs to have a mother and father figure, whereas girls believe that actually, they dont agree! Another statistic that stands out to me on the Girls Attitude survey is that 69% of those surveyed agreed that "Some types of family are treated less fairly, such as single parents, same sex and not married" - Which up to now is very true, with same sex couples being denied the right to marriage. 
One other thing that I have heard been argued is that "Gays have civil partnerships, why do they need marriage", well actually, these people are arguing for the irrelevance of marriage, so therefore I will go a step further and say, why should anyone get married. In my personal opinion, marriage is a declaration of love and wholehearted trust in a significant other, and committing yourself to them for the rest of your life in every way possible. But I suppose we all have our own definitions and expectations of marriage. In the Girls Attitude surveys, 72% of those surveyed disagreed that "marriage is just another piece of paper" proving that marriage still holds some worth for future generations, therefore why should we discriminate? Why should we make it exclusive to a man marrying a woman? 
Should gay marriage be legal?

One argument that I was shocked to read, was the fact that same sex marriage imposes acceptance. I think this is a great reason to why it must be implemented. Same sex relationships shouldnt be seen as any different to any other type of relationship .... they should be accepted, I see no reason why they should not. 

I suppose my underlying feelings on the issue are based on the fact that I see that love is love, no matter who it is towards, whether you are express love to someone of the same gender as you, or the opposite gender... its love at the end of the day - crazy. Irrational. Overflowing Love <3 

Love never fails, Love conquerors, Love is essential to life 
Vicky 
xx