Tuesday, 16 January 2024

"Wins" in Women's Health

 "Wins" in Women's Health this week! 🙌

Happy New Year blog! 
Wow, it has been a while since I have blogged, but thought I would post some short content on her, particularly around women's health. 


As "Blue Monday" is now officially behind us, let's talk about some positive news! 🗞

In the last few weeks there have been 2 great things announced for women's health:

👉 1. Mirena coil users - the Faculty of Sexual and Reproductive Health announced the Mirena coil now has a licence for 8 years for contraception. This includes those that have already been fitted!

👉 2. The UK Gov has FINALLY scrapped the tax on period underwear, so hopefully they will be more affordable! (We are hoping to see a £2 reduction in the cost! )

Of course, these wins are preceded by so much hard work - research, campaigning and advocating. This wins remind us that we must continue to speak up for women's health to continue to have weekly wins like this! 💕

Tuesday, 16 March 2021

"Grow a set of balls"

 


"Grow a set of balls" "Man Up" "Don't be a girl" ...the list goes on! 


Growing up, the use of gendered language defines who we become and how we think.


Telling someone to grow a set of balls, eludes to the fact that male genitalia symbolises strength and therefore female genitalia is weakness. Telling someone to not be a girl reinforces this point. Man up when telling someone to be stronger further reinforces this point


But the one that really got me, everytime was growing a set of balls... I mean come on, male testicles are possibly the most sensitive organs there is - they dangle outside the body, therefore often get hit during contact sport, and when hit, debilitate a person. Also they hang outside the body because they can't hack the body's natural temperature...! 


So why don't we re-learn growing a set of balls? I saw this top and I couldn't help but purchase it, firstly because it supports women in art but secondly because it challenges all of these stereotypes.


Women's "balls" or ovaries are incredible, they are little powerhouses, creating millions (20-30 million) eggs whilst you are still in the WOMB! They then pump out an egg monthly, alongside all the hormones you need for ovulation and menstruation! The ovaries are certainly tough and resilient ... Surely that's what anyone would want to be... Right? 


And don't even get me started on how badass the uterus is... 


So next time you go to use a gendered insult, think of the implications of that gendering! Think about how it might make someone feel, or the implicit bias that it generates.


We want a future generation that doesn't regard boys are macho and strong and girls as timid and weak, because we know that has damaging consequences for both men and women as they experience life.


Change you insults, for the greater good!





Friday, 8 January 2021

Perspective

Hello to the blog world! 

After a week of feeling slightly overwhelmed by what was happening in the world, I wrote some of my thoughts down and I thought I would share them, just in case they might help anyone else feeling the same way! 

🌺"What the caterpillar calls the end, the rest of the world calls a butterfly"🌺

This was my laptop's daily quote, which flashed up on my screen in the early hours of this morning, after getting home from work late and discouraged. What it reminded me is that life is all about perspective..!

The excitement for the new year was quickly dulled by the News of a new lockdown (are we on the 2nd or 3rd? Who knows…?). 

And although this lockdown to all of us feels like the end, it may also look like the beginning of something beautiful, it might be the cocoon to our beautiful butterfly-like freedom in a couple of months.

And along the way reminding us of the importance of being able to go round to a friend's house, being able to cuddle your loved ones and our smiles not being masked

So I hope this post reminds you of perspective! Look after yourself in your cocoon for and dream of the beautiful life ahead of us.🐛


Sunday, 22 November 2020

Virago Health!

 As you may know, I am the proud owner of a podcast called Virago Voices, which is all about women's empowerment. 
I started this podcast out of my love of chatting to people and my desire to make the world a slightly better place for the next generation of girls. 
With this in mind, I recently had an experience where I shared some information on women's health on my social media, which led one of my followers to get a diagnosis. On hearing this, I thought about my privilege; being a doctor and being passionate about women's health means I have a lot of knowledge and access to knowledge on common women's health conditions - and potentially a better understanding of normal and abnormal. It led me to think, why not use my podcast as a vehicle for making more change, in the field of women's health! Something I am very passionate about. After discussing with friends and talking about it on my social media, I have created Virago Health. A weekly chat with subject matter experts on women's health issues...


Virago Health: 
"Virago women are fierce, they are the women who are unapologetically who they are, they are challenging societal views of what a woman should be, and pushing forward the fight of equality. Some people describe virago women as a violent and unpleasant woman, but here at the podcast we call them heroic warriors
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Here at Virago Voices, we are passionate about Virago women being spotlighted. Equally, we believe their health is important if they are going to be able to fight for their place in the world. 
As a doctor, our founder is passionate about women’s health and wellbeing. And therefore, inspired by a recent event, we have decided to introduce Virago Health, a weekly episode, interspersed with our usual Virago episodes, to discuss common topics in women’s health with expert help in each field we discuss. We also will answer your women’s health related questions through our episodes. 
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To keep up to date on the latest podcasts, follow Virago Voices on Instagram, Spotify or Apple music! 
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Please note we cannot give medical advice, for this you must speak to your doctor."

Tune in to stay updated, and forward the podcast to your friends and family! 








Sunday, 15 November 2020

Progress

Let's start with a story... Recently I have been getting into running, with gyms closing due to Lockdown 2.0. Whilst out on a run the other night, at around 2km into my journey, a female runner sprints past me. She is approximately my age and size. Yet she ran past me. 

I gave myself a hard time, feeling that I should be faster, asking myself why I was so slow compared to her, trying to speed up to keep pace with her. 

However, around 200m of her running past me, I look up to see she has stopped. The girl stopped, took off her headphones and stopped her watch… she was on the final 200m of her run. Me on the other hand, had still another 3 km to run. 

The more I pondered over this on the rest of my run, the more I compared this to life. And to my horror, I realise I do this every day without realising. Particularly with other women. I beat myself up about my inability to keep pace with people who are at completely different places in their life than I am. 

And if you constantly do this, with an array of different people, you build this expectation, this race for yourself that you will never be able to finish. Which then leads to feelings of failure, when actually people are simply at a different place in their run than you are. And guess what… that is totally fine. You are still running, aren’t you? You are still finishing your race, who cares about what people are doing around you. 

So next time you see someone achieving “more than you”, someone you feel is overtaking you on your journey, just think about where you are at in your run, and how important that is to you. Focus on you, focus on your run. 

Don’t try and keep pace with people in different positions on their journey, keep pace with yourself. And always remember to enjoy the journey!



Sunday, 14 June 2020

Launching my podcast


I am writing this blog post to make an exciting announcement: Today is the official launch of my first ever podcast. 

I chose to do a podcast because I’ve learnt that I am much better at saying things as opposed to writing them down. Eloquence on paper is not my forte.  
The podcast is called Virago Voices – the reason for this is stated in the introductory podcast which I have just released, so I won’t spoil the surprise. The aim of the podcast is to empower women. I aim to do this through dialogue with amazing women. Each episode is named after the inspiring woman with whom I am chatting.  I aim to capture those conversations that you have with your girlfriends over coffee, in the hope that the listener will be able to relate in some way and feel empowered by the conversations that we are having.

Listen to the introductory podcast here, explaining the meaning behind the name and what the podcast is about. (At the minute it is only available on Anchor Fm and Spotify, but is in the process of uploading onto Apple Music)!
I hope to release an episode per week!

If you are or know any inspiring women, please get in touch!


Monday, 25 May 2020

Lockdown Love

Idly listening to music on youtube the other night, I was overwhelmed by the sheer number of adverts between videos relating to dieting during the lockdown. I want to address this.

A little reminder: lockdown is stressful enough without having to worry about your body! If you are getting less exercise because your favourite gym is closed or you feel out of routine because you are unable to do your normal activities, that is ok!

No one is expecting that of you.

I know that Instagram is full of people who have transformed into personal trainers and weight loss coaches. Just remember that Instagram is the perfect part of someone’s life; they may be actually binge-watching tiger king and munching snacks between these “workouts”.
I just feel like lockdown is the new New Year’s, with people striving to become a “new person”. Why can't we just survive? 

Delving into these diet and exercise fads on my own Instagram induced considerable anxiety so I stopped doing so. I then decided to go a step further. I started unfollowing the content that was making me feel bad. This is called curating your feed. We do it subconsciously, and it is usually detrimental as we end up following all the perfect parts of everyone’s life. 
Instead, let’s do it for positivity. Unfollow the accounts that make you feel bad about yourself and follow accounts that fill you with happiness and positivity. 

So... Let’s not allow lockdown to become the new New Year’s!


For more information about increasing your self-esteem during lockdown, check out Dove's campaign:

Thursday, 21 May 2020

The Real People Project


Do you ever look through your Instagram feed and immediately feel crap about the chocolate you just munched while drinking your cuppa? Or feel guilty about the pizza you scoffed at the weekend? Does it ever make you feel like you aren’t enough?

If you answered yes to the above questions, then… join the club! However, instead of this story being one of self-loathing, let it be one of self-loving.

After discussing this at length with a good friend, over some wine, we decided that we wanted to change the narrative. We wanted to create Instagram feeds where people felt enough.

And this was the birth of the Real People Project; an Instagram-based movement to display real people and their stories in order to promote body confidence and self-love in all people. 

Since its creation, we have had nearly 50 real people sharing their stories, and have spoken to vast audiences about topics such as self-love, imposter syndrome and body confidence.

The really interesting thing that we have learnt, as founders of the movement, is that firstly everyone has a story, and with that story comes their own struggle of self-love. And secondly, that narrative may not have been anything you may have expected!


So my take-home message is simple. You are not alone if you struggle with self-love, but you can reach out to others and open the dialogue!

Lots of love
The Real People Project
(@therealpeopleproject)

Thursday, 26 March 2020

Self Love during Self Isolation

Self-love is difficult at the best of times, not least when your normal routine is disrupted due to social uncertainty. I for one struggle on a daily basis with self-love, which is something I feel that I need to disclose, especially as I run a social media account (https://www.instagram.com/therealpeopleproject/?hl=en) dedicated to appreciating oneself. I link love for myself closely with my mental health; when my mental health is low my self-love takes a hit too, so here is a challenge for both you and I:
Treat your mental health as you would your physical health.

When I feel my physical health is deteriorating I do something to improve it, whether it’s getting more sleep, drinking orange juice or doing some exercise. Why shouldn’t we do the same for our mental health? Mental and physical health are just as important as each other – we are responsible for treating both. Have you found the orange juice for your mind?


I'm Back

Hello world!

So I promised a very special group of people that as I closed one door, I would open another.
A very big dream of mine is to write a book, and I have decided the best way to begin this is to resurrect my blog, and frequently update it with my ideas and thoughts of the world.

Why did you choose to resurrect your blog from nearly 10 years ago... well why not? As I read back through my blog posts, as cringe as a lot of them are, I realised they are a story of my growth as a young woman in society and the development of my feminist ideals.

So please tune in and enjoy...

Tuesday, 2 February 2016

The Media Menace

RooshV has being filling facebook timelines over the last 24 hours for his recent planned trip to Scotland.

To start, I watched one of his talks on the BBC documentary "Reggie Yates Extreme UK" and it infuriated me, like it would most women and no doubt men too. This man is incredibly mysgonistic and in my opinion an giant attention seeker. However in the last 24 hours a petition has surfaced to stop him coming to Scotland to give a talk on his views.
I will not be signing this petition and here is why.

First of all, we are not a nanny state - we are a democracy and we cant stop people from sharing their views. Just because he speaks to a few people in Scotland doesn't mean he will change the way men see women, I have more faith in our men than that!


Secondly, the fact that RooshV has covered my timeline in the last 24 hours has angered me. Why does he deserve this publicity? As a man with extremist views, like every extremist, he thrives on media and public attention. Therefore all these petitions and outcries are playing right into his hands, afterall its free advertising for him!

Therefore in summary, I may not agree with his views and I can assume most of you wont either, however he is still a human being with the right to an opinion, and we can't stop that!
How to tackle this problem? Ignore it! Ignore him and don't give him the attention that he wants and does not deserve.

To find out more about RooshV and why he is so unpopular, check out http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-scotland-35474206

Friday, 16 October 2015

Poor Female Role Models?

Hello to everyone! Sorry I have been such an absent blogger recently!



So last week I was selected to attend the “Women of the World” conference in LONDON, as part of Dove’s “Change makers of tomorrow” team – which was an absolute privilege. The conference was incredible and it gave a platform for so many inspiring women from all over the world to speak about their life experiences and all the amazing things they have been doing! However ever since I have been pondering why we have so few women in powerful positions in our society when women are doing such amazing things. Following that, why do we never hear about all the amazing things that women have been doing all around the world?
A few of the team beside the stage!! 

I have entitled this blog “poor female role models?” because in terms of media representation of female role models in our society, the outlook is grim. Just take a look at the front page of a magazine or tabloid and you’ll find awful role models for young women. Our politicians wearing some horrendous skirt and shoes that don’t match, our celebrities who are “gaining 10lbs” or who are looking “less than glamorous with a make-up free face” So do we have poor female role models?

I completely disagree that we have poor female role models. There are so many amazingly incredible female role models in the world today, however we just don’t hear about them, or they simply get silenced behind the medias blaring horn of judgment.

Last week I attended the Women in the World conference in London, a conference that gave these amazing women a platform to tell their stories, seemingly away from the media judgment horn. Let me share some of the stories of these amazing women, to prove that we have a multitude of great female role models.

Dr Von der Leyen speaking to Tina Brown

Firstly my personal inspiration, Dr Ursula Von der Leyen – ever heard of her?
She is Germany’s Minister of Defence, and mother of 7 and a medically trained doctor, this women is definitely a positive role model to all young women,  who are constantly told by the media and society that you can’t be a mother and be successful; you have to choose. If you get a chance, I would recommend a look at her political policies on the German army, as she is definitely very switched on in terms of her thinking. She also made amazing reforms in Germany in her past positions as minister, introducing 2 months of paid paternal leave that only the father can take, encouraging men to have a more active role as a dad and allowing mothers to engage more with their career or other aspirations. She is also fighting hard for a culture shift in society, where more women are involved in politics, she said “We want diversity. Women are not better than men, they are different” eluding to the fact that we need a balance of men and women in high power positions to achieve a diverse society.
As you can tell I was completely inspired by her, but then I sat back and wondered why I’d never heard of her?

Cara onstage, with her shoes off!

Next someone who is particularily famous with the youth of today, Cara Delevinge. Cara started out in the media eye as a Model for Burberry, then moved into acting and recently singing.
As a Dove generation girl delegate I got the opportunity to meet this wonderful woman, and discovered she was a normal 23 year old female, just like me! When I first saw her, I actually became quite starstruck, shocked by the fact she was a normal human being, not some robot that the media has created.
Later when she spoke, she revealed she struggled with mental health issues, and some self confidence issues when she started out in her career. To have the strength to speak out and tell her story to a crowd of 900 people is immense, and I respect her massively for doing so. Some things that she said really stuck with me, “Flaws are the things that make us special. The cracks within us make us great and they need light shone into them”. In our idealistic society, where the media reports on every silly little flaw of every women in the limelight, it is hard to be able to accept ourselves as the wonderful women that we are. We need more role models like Cara Delevinge to remind us that our flaws make us not only beautiful, but they make us who we are.

However, if you google search “Cara Delevingne at the Women of the World conference” the first option that comes up is a daily mail article talking about what Kendall Jenner is wearing to support her friend at the event, rather than the amazing things that were said or the incredibly brave women who stood up and told their story to the masses.






My horrifying Google search after the conference had finished




This is the media and their portrayal of a woman in our society. A woman who could have such a positive influence in the world and be an amazing role model to young women but instead she is locked out of her potential by the media’s coverage of her.

Living with a media where our politicians are judged more on what they are wearing than what they are saying, and celebrities with an opinion are getting them dimmed down by the media criticism of their weight and makeup is not a media that I want to engage in. It is not only damaging to society as a whole, but it degrades the amazing role models that we do have that should be promoted. So do we have poor female role models?

So in conclusion, we don’t have poor role models at all, we simply have poor media coverage of amazing role models.




 Me promoting Dove's new campaign #NoLikesNeeded, to promote self-esteem in young people when posting "selfies" on social media! Check it out!